We always seem to have the longest TO DO lists. Especially at the beginning of the year. There are so many things that we have to get done. And it just seems to keep piling on. It can be so overwhelming and exhausting, mentally and physically. What I want to tell you is you don't have to do it. You don't have to do any of that stuff at all. You don't have to go grocery shopping. You don't have to go to any of your kids sporting events. You don't have to make dinner. You don't have to do that assignment for work. You don't have to do the paper for your class. You don't have to study for the test. You don't have to read to your kids. You don't have to do any of it. Nobody is making you do any of this stuff. Nobody is forcing you to do any of it. So this is what I want you to do. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and write down all the things that you think you have to get done. All the things on your TO DO list. Everything. Get it all down. Just write it all down. This may take some time especially the first time you are doing it. Then I want you to look at the list and decide which of these things you don't want to do and cross them off your list. Now I am not telling you there won't be consequences to some of these things not getting done, because there will be. There is a consequence to not study for your test. You may fail your class. There can be consequences to some of these things. There are for sure things that don't have such big consequences too. If you don't make dinner your family is not going to starve to death. If you don't read to your kids they are not going to be illiterate. There are things on your list that you have to decide if you don't want to do them then you are fine with the consequences. Then you do not have to do them and cross them off your list. Know that everything on your list you are choosing to do. You are choosing to do all those things and you are also choosing how you react and how you talk and how you respond to doing all those things. So what if you could choose to be happy doing all those things? Because you ARE choosing to do them. No one is forcing you to do them. You have looked at your list and you have taken everything off that you don't want to do anymore. Everything on your list you are choosing to do and you truly want to do. So only you are choosing to do it, and do it with happiness. Choose to have fun doing your list. Choose to enjoy it because these are all things that you have chosen to do. If you have a teenager or young adult who suffers with anxiety and needs to learn that they can choose to be happy, click on the button at the bottom of this page to book a free mini session with me.